A recent Facebook post has ignited a heated debate on marriage, drawing comparisons between past and present generations’ approaches to marital challenges.
The poster, Mpa Kelechi, reflected on his upbringing, and described how his mother managed the family during times when their father withheld financial support due to disputes with their mom.
Despite all that, the mother did not choose to walk off the marriage, rather, she turned the adversity into strength, developing several business skills, to help her cater for the family.
The post reads:
“I remember while growing up if my mom and dad had a problem my father would not provide food for a week and even a month sometimes and my mother would be the one taking care of everything which is not good as a father but we her children would decode that there was a problem but my mom didn’t leave the marriage due to it but rather she turned it into knowing how to do business but this our generation any marital quarrel that results in no physical äbüse or continuing not providing food for the family bööm they will leave the marriage and tag it my mental health is more important than the marriage.
Madam Marriage is not rosy and will never be. For many of us here, our fathers made our mothers jäcks of all trades due to our fathers’ continuous inability to provide food at home. Madam go and learn work, start up something before entering marriage to avoid leaving your marriage unnecessarily because no marriage out there is perfect okwu nke oseburuwa.”
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The post has sparked mixed reactions online, with some agreeing with Kelechi, while many condemned his position and called him names.
Janet Nyong reacting to the post wrote;
“Stop projecting your family’s reality on other people.
Don’t you see how much of a failure your father was? He ended up raising a child who is still basking in the folly of his ancestors.
Because why would any responsible man write this level of gibbérish on social media with so much pride?
A man had a rift with his wife and refused to feed his children, his own blood, as a way of punishing the woman?
You grew up and use such a barbaric story as an analogy to why women should find something doing.
Every woman knows that having her own money will save her and her home if the husband breaks down. Also, so they’ll be enough money to take care of the family.
Any man that is as insensitive, wícked and inconsiderate as your father, deserves no wife.”
Hadassah Esther wrote;
“Omo
Women, try to find out how a man treated his wife before marrying his son , because that’s exactly how you will be treated .
You just typed a heap of nonsense .
You need to purge yourself to realise that taking care of your family should never be negotiated according to how you feel at a time .you are not even talking about a man having financial crisis, rather a man intentionally starving his wife and kids .
That’s an irresponsible man out there and it’s quite unfortunate that you are becoming that kind of man.”
Özil Obinna Obi commented saying;
“Any Man who intentionally starve his family because of misunderstanding is an animal … brotherhood is not proud of your family OGA…I wonder what we wake up to read on social media sometimes”.
